Success in Marriage

Ben —  March 23, 2010 — Leave a comment

In so many ways, marriage is a ‘real life’ test of our character and faith. It involves so much of what life is really all about.

Living by principles can help us achieve the results we are after. Principles are like keys: ‘If I do this – I will get that result.’

Here’s a principle for Marriage and Family Life: ‘I will live by the principle of being faithful to my marriage.’

Today we live in a culture that glorifies professional achievements, yet rarely acknowledges success in marriage and family life.

I was extremely fortunate to have been given the most precious gift any child have – the gift of a loving family.

Maybe some of you did too, but even if your upbringing was less than ideal, take hope.

The Bible has many examples of imperfect families. In fact some of the great men and women of the Bible had family difficulties.

  • The first family in the Bible was dysfunctional. One brother was so jealous of the other brother that he murdered him
  • Noah got drunk
  • Lot offered his daughters up to strangers
  • Abraham told his wife Sarah to lie that she was his sister and offered her to a foreign king
  • Jacob and Esau didn’t talk to each other for 20 years

(All sounds a bit like ‘The Bold and the Beautiful’, doesn’t it?)

Let’s take a look at the first family ever created.

In Genesis 2 God calls everything He created ‘good’ or ‘very good’.

But then in Genesis 2:18 The Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.’

Because it was ‘not good’ that Adam was alone, God created woman to be man’s (equally ranked, but differently ‘wired’) helper. Eve was created as an ideal match for Adam.

Genesis 2:21-23

  • God created both woman and man in His own image.
  • God created the woman equal in dignity and value to the man.

God created both women and men with spiritual natures, sharp minds and a calling to work and to accomplish things together. For married couples this happens over a lifetime.

We often hear this scripture quoted at weddings:

Mark 10:6–9 (NLT) 6 But ‘God made them male and female’ from the beginning of creation. 7 ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, 8 and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, 9 let no one split apart what God has joined together.”

Long-term commitment is not popular in our culture. Today we emphasize individual rights, personal freedom and mobility.

Commitment to marriage often requires being able to put your spouse’s needs above your own, even long after the initial phase of feeling totally ‘in love’ with each other.

Note the words of Dr. James Dobson:  “A marriage built upon Christ has the tools necessary to weather storms.”

Here’s something to think about:

How could you show love to your spouse more? Is there anything you could do differently? Is your family operating at its absolute best?

Make a commitment to do something that builds your marriage this week.

‘I will decide to live by the principle of being faithful to my marriage.’

(By the way, if you’re not married yet, maybe you will be one day. Remember – you can be preparing yourself for a strong marriage long before the event – even before you find that special someone!)